le profil de celles qui savent rebondir

Some seem to have experienced the test of life with amazing strength, while others are trying to keep their heads away from the water. How to explain this difference? Psychologist Tim T. Strobandt shed light on internal resources that allow you to rebound, sometimes even change.

Rest, mourn, be fired… Tests, big or small, mark our lives. If they can put us on the ground, they sometimes offer opportunities to grow. But why do some seem to overcome life tests better than others? “The ability to rebound depends on many factors: our personal history, the education we receive, the eyes of those around us.” The good news: This inner power is not reserved for some privileges. It is cultivated, learned, and can deeply change our relationship with life.

Transform testing into constructive opportunities

In theory, we all have the ability to overcome experiments. But in reality, it all depends on our life lessons, the people around us, and the support we receive. Overcoming difficulties means trying to change your experience in constructive aspects. “Some people are more likely to achieve it because from childhood they learn to believe them, Tim T. Strobandt is weakened, rarely listened, rarely valuable… It’s not a weakness, but a matter of condition.” Good news: This resilience can develop: Then, in the environment that supports us, we find ourselves much stronger than we think.

Look at achievements positively

The entourage plays a crucial role. A simple kind look can change everything. “When someone says to you, ‘You leave it, ‘You are strong,’ I see you. In my office, I often meet women who have achieved great success… but can’t see. Because we live with ourselves every day, we forget to measure his progress. Sometimes, it’s enough to look closely (realize.”

Courage, working muscles

Courage itself works. A bit like muscle: The more we use it will enhance. It starts with small movements every day: Dare to say no, ask for help, place your limitations or simply speak out your experience. “Once one starts saying, ‘It’s something I’ve been through and how I get out, she becomes the actress of her story. It’s already a step in the transformation.”

Because you have to practice the theory of small steps in the face of painful tests. Tim T. Stroobandt often repeats the proverb: “‘The person who moves a mountain starts by moving small stones.” Just prepared, thinking has taken action. We cannot underestimate the power of small victory: past calls, appointments, a sentence entrusted to someone…most importantly, keep a course even out of reach. This is what it means to exercise, even the least. transparent

What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger?

Faced with hardship, we tend to say, “What is not killed will make you stronger.” Is it true? “Yes, I answered psychologists, but only when we manage to adapt to suffering and understand what she teaches us, what is left of it. Otherwise, she can keep the hurt open. Telling her story, whether through voice, writing or art, has the potential to look, understand, give meaning. It’s a profound treatment, sometimes a liberating act.”

Instilling in the resilience of our children

This ability to rebound, we want to instill it into our children. But how to do it? “The best tool, the answer is our contraction, is to give meaning. Let them understand that life is not linear, with ups and downs, and every difficulty can teach them something. It doesn’t need to be dramatic. Enough to reassure them to tell them that they need to face the resources they need to experiment in their own resources. A child may not know all the words, but he will remember that we believe him. transparent

Text: Gwendoline Cuvelier

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