À la mort de leurs parents, nous avons élevé nos petites-filles

After a fatal accident with their daughter and husbands Susanne and Didier, face the tragedy with great love: they take over to raise their granddaughters.

Susanne and Didier are about to take advantage of their retirement. Today, these sixties are preparing snacks, playing taxi between dance and painting classes…

It was Sunday…

Susan: “It was a Sunday, 7:15 am. We were at sea and the phone called: Our daughter Julie and her husband William* died in a car accident and returned from the wedding. I will never forget the call. We went immediately to find our granddaughter, Billy, 9, 9, and 11 years old, with William’s brother.

Didier: “That’s a black hole. But one thing is clear: the girl’s wishes must be respected. William’s parents live far away and they have another son living near them. Julie is our only child. On the same day, we settled in the woman’s house, and we never left, and we didn’t even leave overnight. The next day, they wanted to go to school. They keep a certain normal way. transparent

We have Maman, Papipapu

Didier: “That Monday, Billy asked us, ‘Can I call you mom and dad now?’ We replied, “We want to be your dad and mom, but you have only one real dad, only one real mom. “Girls usually stick to Mamy and Grandpa, but sometimes they say “Mamy-Maman” or “Papy-Papa” like a compromise.

Susan: “We want to develop the habits of their old lives as much as possible. We have to learn. First, we discuss with the kids every day. How about dad and mom?

Make rules together

Didier: “Of course, these are still children. Transparent

Susan: “But there are still rules. We asked girls what they found to be reasonable when it comes to tablets. Together, we decided that these girls have the right to use their tablet for one hour every 2 days.“

Adopt new habits

Susan: “We’re very open to girls. If we had a bad day, we would say that, they would make us a hug or a painting and say you did a great job.’ They also express themselves at will. With them, we accept life corresponding to our age, but on the other hand, it distracts us from our sorrow. transparent

Didier: “Julie and William love camping. The first summer the girls asked us about a campground. I didn’t see myself sleeping on the mattress on the ground when I was 63. But we went there: not in the tent, in the luxury caravan, with a few friends, we had a great vacation.”

Susan: “A new world opens to us. When we took Lou to the camp, other parents said, ‘Where are we going now?’ Tradition wants them to put the kids behind Julie and William to drink.

Surround yourself well

Susan: “Sometimes we’re tired. When Julie passed away, we just retired. We left for a break, and there, we didn’t stop! We did all the journeys for girls’ activities: drawing academy, boxing or dance classes, library, logopedia …”

Didier: “On Thursday, we were often hit by softness and we went to bed at 9:30 pm, but we would get a lot of help. When someone started asking them what they could do, I replied: ‘Take the girl to the zoo or the amusement park.’ They received a lot of advice.

Susan: “At first, we didn’t dare to take the plane at 2 o’clock, but this fear is not habitable. Julie and William return from marriage, who can see the danger there? I don’t want to be overprotected. Lou has the honor to ride his bike to school like his friend. You can’t put the kids under the bell. transparent

Everyone is mourning

Didier: “The other day, someone said to me, ‘Girls are nice, right? They smile, they always look healthy.’ I showed him a moving video of Billy reading a letter to his parents in the cemetery.

Susan: “The first year, at night, in peace and darkness, without a day of distraction, their sorrow can be traced back to the surface. I tried to absorb it, but I was also very big… It’s going to get better now.”

Didier: “It’s hard to mourn under the same roof4. Everyone is different about things. When one person has a bad day and wants to talk about it, the other doesn’t always want to hear it. It’s hard for my daughter to lose it. Her pictures are very frustrating. Her pictures are above the TV and I can watch her for hours. William is missing, we get along very much, we get along very much. We often go to football together.”

Turning eyes to the future

Susan: “Then I had breast cancer. The prospects were not good. We were honest with girls. When we lived under the same roof, there was no point. Keep the items. For chemotherapy, I lost all my hair. The girls never really said they were scared, but when my results were good, I felt their relief.

Didier: “I hope our granddaughters will be strong and independent women who can rely on themselves and when we are not there. I often wonder if Julie wants us to take care of the kids. She may prefer young people. One of her friends reassures me: one night, they drank too much and they discussed it. My daughter said to him, “I don’t have to worry, I know my mother and father will take over.” I’m very nice to me. transparent

*Borrow name. Text: Tine Trappers and Françoise Gauder

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